Thoughts of a sub…..

What happens in a boys mind?

What does a boy think of when he is serving his Mistress? This is a complex issue for a boy to discuss, as there is what his Mistress would like to hear, and what he really thinks. Of course what he is sometimes really thinking, he would never dare express to his Mistress, as it often not permitted to express some sentiments.

Naturally when a boy is serving or being used by his Mistress, his primary thoughts are on being a good boy, withholding any reactions he knows his Mistress will not like, ensuring that within the scope of what he is allowed to say, he keeps expressing appreciation to Her, and letting Her know how lucky he is to be serving Her, to be allowed to experience the pleasure that taking pleasure from him, or inflicting pain on him, or humiliating him brings Her.

There are of course always unspoken thoughts. Why do these remain unspoken? Well, there can be many reasons. The boy may be actively working on refining his submission, honing his subservience to Her, and as such it is better to leave it unspoken, as a Mistress takes it for granted that a boy will work on such issues and has better things to do that listen to a boy whining about himself. Another reason might be that it is just plain inappropriate, for example, many boys dream that their Mistress will allow them a release, but most well trained boys understand that this is not to be spoken and is often deemed completely irrelevant to the session. Some Mistresses of course crave to hear Her boys beg.

But these thoughts usually disappear when the boy is well trained, and especially when he reaches sub space, where the only thing he can think of is his Mistress’s pleasure, and pleasing his Mistress. At these times a boy is overwhelmed with submission, with devotion, sometimes with love. He wonders how did all this happen, how did he not only discover his true self, but find himself in his true place in life, kneeling, worshipping at his Mistress’s feet. As She orders and he obeys, or as She just takes or gives what She wants while he is bound with no choice, he is incredulous that he has reached the point in his life where he begs permission to kiss Her feet, how he may never again, in his life cum unless She allows it, where he can probably even count the number of orgasms She will allow him in his life, and how he thanks Her for taking this control over him. As he is thinking all this, he thinks of how most men take it for granted that they will release in any sexual encounter, how most men would never kiss a Woman’s feet before begging permission to massage Her, or do Her housework. But rather than thinking What happened to me, he thinks Thank You Mistress, i will spend my life worshipping You in order to thank You for teaching me my place under Your feet. He will not look at other males with envy, but rather wish that they could learn their real place in life too.

The boy is wondering how his Mistress sees him, has he improved as a pet since the last time he was allowed in Her presence? Is there anything he should bring up the next time he is allowed to talk regarding ideas he might have had to make Her life easier, more comfortable, more pleasurable? He wonders about the activities where he might be holding back, activities he suspects his Mistress would enjoy that much more if he were less inhibited. Can he take just that extra little bit more pain, knowing how much it will please Her to know that he is sacrificing in order to please Her more.

Sometimes a boy might even wonder how life might have turned out if he considered himself equal to the Woman he serves. How different would a vanilla life have been with his Mistress? At such times he has to work hard at holding back a smirk, as Mistress might see the smirk, and without knowing what he is thinking, take it as a sign of contempt, and pity the boy whose Mistress suspects him of such a sin! It is laughable, as a boy knows that he could never be his Mistress’s equal, and he would slowly shrivel and fade if he were in a vanilla life.

When being used by his Mistress, as often as not a boy does little thinking. A bound boy is not often required for his intellectual capacities. More often than not, when he is bound and helpless, or obeying orders, he is not so much thinking but feeling. Feeling the incredibly intense pleasure that complete obedience to his Mistress brings. The feel of Her breath, or the sound of Her breathing. he feels the incredible tension that permeates the silence between each of Her footsteps. he wonders whether it is the sound that is made when his arse is flogged, or the pain of the flogger that hurts more. He wonders whether the next sensation he experiences will be painful or pleasurable. He feels gratitude and devotion to his Mistress. And then he starts thinking again. He thinks How can i ever make up to Her, for being allowed to be in Her presence, to compensate Her for the exhilaration, the sense of ecstatic joy that threatens to entirely overwhelm him. Is there some more work he can do around the house? Can he learn a new skill, improve his massage skills? Take a pedicure course? Should he beg permission to be allowed to enrol in a cooking course so he can better prepare Her favourite cuisine?

When a boy is with his Mistress, he thinks, but more importantly, his Mistress helps him to stop thinking and feel more. And his feelings help him grow as a sub, and enrich his capabilities to empathise with his Mistress’s desires, and to actively pre-empt Her needs, to become pro-active in learning to be a better boy for Her.

Written by : obedient_slave_boi

How can bratty subs/slaves be disciplined effectively?

How can subs/slaves that that are insubordinate just to receive discipline be handled, so they are still disciplined, but don't receive the pleasure they were hoping for?

It is all too common a scenario, a sub or slave playing up because they enjoy the attention of being scolded or at the receiving end of discipline. While some find it fun to have a feisty sub, many find it annoying and disrespectful. At best it shows a lack of consideration towards ones Owner, and at worst it represents a clear case of an attempt to Top from the bottom.

How can this sort of sub/slave be dealt with? Disciplining them places their Owner in the situation of being manipulated into a situation that is not for their own pleasure but for their subs. Every Domme has their own way of dealing with this, so this is more of an expression of ideas. Clearly denial of the subs preferred means of discipline is important. If the sub is to be disciplined then it should not be an enjoyable experience in the slightest, and preferably an experience they will regret for a long time.

Can a sub self administer discipline? Is it a fitting mechanism, to lock them in a room with recording equipment and an alarm clock set to ring every hour, and make them wake every hour on the hour to self administer discipline in front of the camera. The sub can have a painful task such as tiger balm to be applied to various places, or various insertions. Each hourly discipline to be recorded on cam, so that its Mistress may verify it at any point if She desires, and he needn’t be present to gain any satisfaction from Her viewing his pain. Would this be a discipline many brats would enjoy? Hopefully not.

Most good subs/slaves would find the idea of being away from their Mistress to be a terrible punishment, and this can be a very effective means of discipline. Is this always enough? Will it really drive home a lesson especially in a case of severe insubordination? Will the sub be too scared of loss of contact with its Owner to ever repeat its insubordination?

With a male sub is it better to hit him where it really hurts? Even the best trained of sub boys enjoy cumming, no matter how irrelevant it may be to their Mistress. Long term denial of orgasm privileges may be a good punishment for these boys, but because of the time to reach peak frustration it may be a while before they truly learn the lesson they need to learn.

These are just thoughts, perhaps an invitation to comment on what methods others have found best to deal with such subs.

Christmas Carol with a twist

Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the town
Her pleas could be heard as her panties came down.

"Oh Santa, dear Santa, don't spank me, I pray!
I'll be ever so good, starting right from today!"

But Santa just chuckled, "I've heard that before
From many a bad girl with bottom so sore

As she wriggles and squirms 'neath his hand's hearty sting.
But a promise like that - why, it means not a thing.

What matters, dear One, as you'll very soon see
Is that you should be spanked across Santa's broad knee

Till your sassy bare bottom is burning bright red!"
And with that, the old fellow did just as he'd said,

And proceeded to spank her with all of his might
Till her yelps echoed loud in the cold frosty night,

And each swat, ringing out like a loud pistol shot,
Turned her soft, round bottom increasingly hot.

Then, when she'd been hand-spanked with many a smack,
The jolly old fellow reached into his sack

He produced a fine paddle of well-seasoned wood.
"Now, this is the thing that makes naughty girls good."

He remarked with a grin. "And I think you'll soon find
How effective it feels on a soft, tender behind!"

"Oh please, Santa! No more!" she cried in dismay,
But the paddle cracked down without further delay,

And despite all her protests and wailings and shrieks
It soon deepened the blush on her squirming, rear cheeks.

Poor Dear how she wriggled but all was vain,
For the paddle descended again and again

Till her bouncing bare bottom was sizzling and sore
And as red as the costume that Santa Claus wore.

But at last he relented allowing her to rise,
Hugged her warmly while wiping the tears from her eyes,

And murmuring, "There, it's all over, my dear!"
Rubbing soothing cool cream on her blazing, hot rear.

Then he exclaimed, "Well Miss, your sweet bottom so curved
Has had the sound spanking it so richly deserved.

From now on, I'm sure, I don't need to explain,
If you're good then I shan't have to spank you again.

But if you are naughty - remember, my dear,
That Santa keeps watch for the whole of the year!"

Then smiling, he shouldered his bulging big sack,
And sent her away with a crisp farewell smack.

So she hurried to bed with satisfaction you know,
With a song in her heart and her bottom aglow

And a sense that all manner of things were all right.
But she slept facing down on her tummy that night.

Different sub/slave types

What are the differences between a sub and a slave? The thought that comes to mind foremost is that a slave has no right to deny an order. This makes a slave in some ways more devoted to its Owners needs, as a sub can negotiate limits with his/her Owner, and so this can tend to create a sub that has their own needs as the central posit in their relationship. A slave must do as told, with the exception that it should never be asked to commit a crime, as that places itself and its Owner in a morally reprehensible position. A slave whose Owner demands he has sex with a minor always has the right to refuse.

Of subs and slaves, there are a few main types to explore. These are:

• Servant sub/slave
• Pleasure sub/slave
• Financial sub/slave
• Masochist
• Domestic sub slave

A Servant sub/slave must work hard to ensure its Owner has a comfortable and easy life. They have many duties which may include chauffeuring, organization of financial matters if allowed, personal assistant duties such as arranging appointments, paying bills and standing in line at queues so its Owner may sit and relax, perhaps in a coffee shop until the sub calls Her to let Her know She needs attend the counter. Manicure, pedicure and massage are vital skills for a servant.

A pleasure sub/slave devotes their life to their Owners pleasure. This is pleasure in a sensual and sexual sense. A pleasure slave should never be under the illusion that their own pleasure is important or even relevant. A pleasure sub should redefine their vocabulary so that whenever they refer to Orgasm, they are referring to their Mistress writhing in ecstatic bliss. They will be adept at oral worship, able to perform for extended periods without complaint. They should know and anticipate all their Mistress’s preferences and desires, and maintain all necessary supplies to ensure Her needs and desires are met with no inconvenience or interruption to Her. A pleasure slave may or may not be used sexually, but this is always at their Mistress’s discretion.

Financial subs/slaves live to ensure their Mistress may live the lifestyle She wants to live. They will go without in order to ensure their Owner never has to. They will constantly be thinking of ways they may be more frugal, or earn more money in order to tribute their Mistress with more gifts. A financial slave should have a good understanding of their Owners likes and dislikes, favourite brands, favourite stores etc. They never expect a reward from their tributes, as the pleasure She gets should be reward enough. They will never get jealous or dare say anything if Mistress uses any of their gifts when She is taking pleasure from other subs/slaves.

Masochist slaves enjoy taking pain to ensure their Owner can enjoy inflicting pain. Some masochists tend to be quite self centred, and with inexperienced Dommes they can tend to Top from the bottom. A true masochist should take the pain knowing that its Owner gets an intense excitement when delivering pain to them.

Domestic subs/slaves devote their lives to making their Mistress’s life easier around the home. A well trained domestic will feel pain and guilt if it thinks its Owner has to do any work for Herself. As such he will attempt to do all Her work, gaining true pleasure when he sees that She can relax, or play or do whatever She desires without having to dirty Her hands. A domestic will do Her dishes, laundry (hand washing Her lingerie if allowed), vacuuming, cleaning and house maintenance tasks. He will ensure the bed is always freshly made with clean crisp sheets; all house plants are maintained and watered. He will do all of this with no expectation of reward, as being allowed to do it for Her is reward enough.

In reality most subs/slaves will have a combination of these types although often one type will define the sub. A truly dedicated sub will always ask itself why it is not prepared to become a slave, what are the fundamental reasons, and question whether this could actually be a form of selfishness, and refusal to truly submit to his Mistress. A good sub will aspire to be more hard working and submissive every year.